Now That's a Story!

There's this girl that I like. Well, more than one girl that I like. There's a problem, though: she wants to get married. Did I just use a singular, plural, and then a singular again, addressing the same person? Well, yes and no. You see, I'm what some people might call a Swinger.

I think of myself as being poly amorous, but apparently, some call it swinging. I've fucked multiple girls, and many of those girls that I've slept with have slept with other guys. And I'm fine with that. I've always been fine with that. Sure, I feel a tinge of jealousy at times, but, think of it: do I own you?

Yes, people can own other people, so long as it'sconsensual; and yes, it's not the same at all in comparison with slavery, but, the basic idea is that love and sex can be and are to be shared with whom you choose, rather than dictated by something else. At the least, there option should be there. You could, of course, discuss it and agree one way or the other, but (and I think you'd agree), that's a tad different.

The standard method of being with someone else is that of marriage. First is dating, then the proposal, and, as with the song,"then comes a baby in the carriage." Not necessarily; it would depend on if children were wanted or not. That tends to be what happens, and that's what people tend to want, but it doesn't always have to be the case.

And I know, I'm being a tad picky, but it's only because, in being in opposition with rigid monogamy, and with the potential always there, one has to tell others what one means. It's like being gay or transsexual: you have to explain. And it's going to be a tad bothersome to people, at least when they first hear about it.

But why focus on the negative? There are obvious benefits to being a swinger. Swingers get to fuck who they want, when they want, and how they want. It may be a bit of a stretch, but there is considerably more leeway for swingers. What is unfortunate is that swingers are looked down upon in society: the sexy and kind sweet heart is called a whore, just because she enjoys sex.

The positives and negatives of being a swinger are pretty overt to those who consider it for at least a few moments, and probably best if considered for a while. Swingers get lots of sex, but often not much commitment. Probably the best way of going about it is to start out as a poly amorous swinger, and then slide into monogamy, playing to field and getting to know people until you find someone who suits you.